Asking the right questions can get you... Negative response. All. The. Freaking. Time.


“I am so disappointed with XX’s decision to buy a new car. I don’t know how XX going to pay for 2 cars with his/her salary. And XX have too many debts to pay in a month!”

“Does XX know you’re talking to me about this?”

“Err… No. But sooner or later, you’ll know about this too anyway. There’s no point hiding the fact”

“It is still XX’s privacy isn’t it?”

“I’m just sharing with you my opinion on this matter”

“Did you share with XX about your opinion?”

“No. XX would never listen. So why bother?”

“Then why bother telling me? It’s none of my business XX is getting a new car and having debts”

“Come on. I just need someone to vent out my frustration”

“Why are you frustrated over someone else’s problem?”

Exactly.

Question 1: WHY ARE WE ALWAYS WORRIED ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE’S PROBLEM?

Question 2: WHY DO WE HAVE THE NEED TO TELL PEOPLE ABOUT ANOTHER PERSON’S DIRTY LAUNDRY?

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“Hey, do you know Ms. XY?”

“Yeah, I know of her. Why?”

“Wow! Really? I read her blog and just want to know how she is in real life. Is she just like her blog?”

“Hmph. She’s really plain in real life. Her photos in her blog are edited max. And she’s really a mean bitch! You know what she did to my friend’s sister’s friend’s mother’s cat? [Insert 10 minutes dirty gossiping]

Question 1: WHY DO WE ALWAYS, ALWAYS LOOK FOR THE NEGATIVE IN A PERSON INSTEAD OF THE POSITIVES?


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“Happy birthday! So what did you get for your birthday?”

“Oh God. You won’t believe this. My boyfriend actually gave me a birthday card and a bouquet of flower. THAT’S ALL! Even when I specifically mentioned to him more than a million times that I want THREE bottles of perfumes! I AM SO ANGRY WITH HIM! Ugh!”

“Aww come on. At least he remembers your birthday. The effort is there, dear”

“Yeah but FLOWERS? Come on! What a cheapskate! If I want flowers I can simply pluck it in front of my house. My mom planted flowers all over the house anyway”

Question 1: WHY ARE WE SO SNOBBISH AND UNGRATEFUL? THERE ARE MANY BLESSINGS IN LIFE AND YET WE REFUSE TO BE THANKFUL OF THE MANY GIFTS GIVEN.


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I wish to start a support group for women who are going through marital problems and divorce. I think it will help them to have some sort of emotional support in a way where we can help to listen and give them the inspiration and motivation to overcome their problems. Women needs an outlet to vent out their frustration. And venting it in a correct way can help them to get over it. I want to create a healthy community where women would not take their anger and frustration on other people especially their kids.

“No women in the right mind would want to join. Who would want to share their embarrassing problems?”

“Pfft! That is just an excuse to form a group of gossipers!”

“People can’t keep secrets. One way of another, these poor women’s secrets will be leaked out by those in the group. It’s humiliating to be known as a failure especially in a relationship!”

And many more negative feedbacks received.

Question: WHY DO WE ALWAYS SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE COLORED IN NEGATIVE LENS?

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WHY?







2 Comments:

sya_zazoo said...

the group can be on virtual based to eliminate humiliation, badmouthing each other and so on...i think the idea can better with the counselor as one of the group member.

cik-bakal-puan. :) said...

I couldn't agree more. That is so true.

 

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